Recognizing Your Hurtful Personality Type

One of the biggest challenges that you will face will be to recognize your destructive behavior, especially during times that you feel justified in your actions. Are you not justified in “giving the finger” to someone that cuts you off on the freeway? How about when you tell the “know it all” that he or she is full of it? You have to admit that these responses to others feel pretty good! How can you change a behavior that feels so natural and is done without much thought?

First of all, you must become less rigid and sensitive about whom you and others are. Irreverence needs to become a major part of your introspection work. You need to remember that we all are a little mental, hurtful, and pathological. As soon as you believe this, you will become more irreverent and honest about you! You may even start to view others differently. If you evaluate yourself honestly, you may be able to see that you have behaved in a similar manner as the person that you just “went off on!”

There are several types of personality profiles that apply to hurtful behavioral patterns. Learning your personality type can be a powerful and rewarding experience, if used as a tool for discovery, rather than as a method for stereotyping, or as an excuse for bad behavior. Have you ever looked at someone and thought, “She is never happy” or “He was so nice before we were married.” Do you hear other say these comments about you? In the upcoming months, i will start to describe these personality types in detail.