A Special Gift For a Special Guy

Whether you're married, dating, or only hinting around that you'd
like him to ask you out, here's something that most any man would
appreciate. Make a "Why I Admire ________ (fill in his name)". Be
creative in how you put this together. Use nice paper and different
colors of ink, or cut out letters from magazines and glue on colored
poster board, or use your computer to create something meaningful, or
whatever your imagination comes up with. For your list think of all
the things he does that make him unique, special, thoughtful, caring,
manly, smart, capable, etc. Your list should let him know that you
notice a lot more about him than he might realize. Especially
important are those things you know or think he admires about
himself. Have fun with your project, make it something he would be
proud to show his family and friends, and he'll think you're the most
amazing woman ever and feel very lucky to have you in his life.

From Alive With Love Newsletter --- Sent to you by Kara Oh

Kissing And Hands

Hands - There are many ways you can use your hands during a kiss. The most popular way is to put one hand on your partner's waist and the other one against the middle of their back. Other ways to use your hands are to cup your partner's face in your hands (very romantic!), put them around your partner's neck, put them around their waist, hold your partner's upper or lower arms gently, run your finger's through their hair, or just hold their hands in yours.

Kissing Story: "Erogenous Kissing "

I still remember the first meaningful kissing experience I had. I had a reputation when I was 6 years old of chasing the girls and kissing them, and even now looking back on it brings a chuckle and a reminiscent smile to my face. I quickly outgrew the girl chasing, and remember always being mezmerized by the powerful kisses I witnessed in the movies, and wondered how I would feel when I finally found myself in those circumstances.

Going to a single-sex high school, I guess the opportunities for spending time with girls were few and far between, so in that respect I was a late bloomer. However when I got to my final year that all changed. I was part of a festival of Shakespeare, in which we were performing an excerpt from Antony and Cleopatra. I was rather unfortunately cast as a eunuch, much to the hilarity of the other members of the cast, however I spent a lot of time with the lead character who played Cleopatra.

She was beautiful, funny, and refined. She was everything I found attractive in a woman. A couple of weeks later we were at a party together and we had the opportunity to talk. We had been flirting for weeks, and after a few glasses of wine we kissed. I kissed the soft skin of her lips, the soft skin of her eyelids, the soft skin behind her ear, and the soft skin in the nape of her neck. She melted. Quite unlike kisses from other boys, the moment we shared was sensual and erotic, passionate while at the same time tender. It was a moment that neither of us will ever forget.

I was told later by a friend that I was a very sensual kisser. To me, getting a reaction from the person I was kissing would indicate the feeling I had for them in that moment, and it was important that it was expressed with all the emotion I could convey. I finally understood the power of a kiss, and it didn't have to be on the lips. There are a number of erogenous zones around the face and neck that can transform a kiss from satisfactory to one that is truly memorable, a moment in time when powerful feelings were shared and exchanged and both of us felt immersed in our emotions. The power of touch in that moment was truly electric.

So next time you are in the moment, consider how you can express your feelings by kissing and touching other parts of your partner's face. Put some thought into it. Allow it to have some meaning. And make your moment both sensual and erotic.

It may be a special moment you recall forever!

This week's article is a very special story from Andrew Rusbatch, co-author of "Save My Marriage Today", who shares with us a very special kissing experience.

Stress and Relationships

You may or may not feel the stress you have. There are different types of stress. Some stress is acute, that is, it is caused by a one-time situation and is over. There is also stress caused by situations that re-occur. There are many situations in life that commonly cause stress. Research has shown that there are a number of stress-producing events that can happen in our life. If you have experienced one of these events within the past year, you should take stress-reducing action now. If you have experienced more than one of these, you can be certain that stress is working within you, even if you are unaware of it. Be prepared to make some changes so the stress won’t take its toll on you.

Here are the top 10 stress producing life events:

1. The death of a spouse or partner
2. Divorce
3. Separation
4. Being jailed
5. Death of a family member (parent, child, close relative)
6. Major illness (diagnosis in past six months)
7. Marriage
8. Being fired from your job
9. Reconciliation with estranged spouse or partner
10. Retirement

Here are some additional stress-producing events:

· Moving
· Bankruptcy
· Changing Jobs
· Changing schools
· Trouble with your boss
· Trouble with your marriage or relationship
· Taking out a loan

As you can see, many of the items on these lists can happen to everyone at one time or another. All of life’s major events, both good and bad, bring with them some stress. You can see why the first year of marriage is usually stressful for the couple. They have just been married and have moved into a home together, two of the top stress-producing life events. These stressors must be processed rationally or they will negatively impact your relationships.

Find out more about healthy relationshiprs through virtuous living at Relationship Repair