Write Your Own Wedding Vows

Have you considered writing your own wedding vows? It may seem overwhelming at first, but if you think about it, it will certainly personalize your wedding and make it unforgettable. If you and your partner want to combine your efforts, you could both add something to make it more couple oriented. Make sure you have a private, quiet place where you can concentrate and not be disturbed.

To start, begin with an outline and a simple phrase such as “I Love you’ to get started. Think of your partner and any special traits he has that you want to mention.

Then take a minute to consider any promises you wish to make to your partner. These can be much generalized or very specific. You can use phrases like “love honor and obey” or you could say, love, respect and cherish.” These are just examples; you may have a better idea.

You may want to consider the language and whether you may want to put it in poetry form or if you are a singer, you could sing the vows to your husband. That certainly would be unforgettable! If you have a nickname for your husband, you might want to call him by that name. Or identify him as, ‘your husband’ which most likely is the first time you have said it.

If you have some general ideas, or have written some vows, you should share them with your partner and ask for input. You may want to make it more of collaboration between both of you. Your partner may have some suggestions, or may not like the particular way you have phrased something. You will most certainly want to get your partner’s input so that both have something to share about one another.

You may discover that you both have similar needs and intentions. Or, you might be surprised by your partner’s response. Take turns sharing stories and ideas.

You may want to reexamine the list and prioritize it. Or, there may be phrases or words used that your partner does not like or does not agree with. This may be the first project that you are doing together as partners, but it is an important one so keep that in mind.

Keep in mind that these are vows that you are making for the rest of your life. You may want to take that into consideration. In other words, do not make promises that you cannot keep. Keep in mind the unique qualities of your partner. As you weave his or her great attributes in your vows, you will have a deeper and more meaningful impact.

If it is easier, you may want to consider writing it in letter format. Make believe that you are writing a letter to your new partner, what would you say? You may want to consider taking some excerpts from poems, prose of song lyrics. Keep it real and specific to the commitments that you want to make.