This article will be your guide to surviving that crucial first date set up that will either make or break you in the eyes of your new Dream Girl.

Just Call Her Already

Many dating experts differ in their opinion of how soon to call a woman after getting her digits.  I say, who cares.  Whether you call her the day after or three days after, what’s important is she gets off the phone feeling good and believing you’re a confident and fun guy.  If you have to fake being confident, fake it.  Channel your inner academy award winning acting skills and put on a show if you have to.

Just know this:  The longer you wait to call, the more of a chance you have to talk yourself out of calling.  You can spend the next three days planning out exactly how you want the conversation to go, and yet I promise you that 95% of the time, it will not go exactly as you planned.

So take a deep breath, suck it up, and press SEND!

Be Decisive!

The words “I don’t care” should never come out of your mouth.  Unless you find yourself in bed with a woman and she is asking you what you want for breakfast, this string of words should be eliminated from your vocabulary.  While we’re on the subject, next in line is “What do you want to do?”

Get rid of it.  Have an opinion!  It goes along with being confident and knowing what you want.  Have a set plan as to what you want to do on your date.  If you want to take her to dinner, tell her you think it’d be fun if she came to grab dinner with you Thursday night.  If you want to go grab coffee with her, tell her you’ve been craving some coffee and ask her if she’d like to come along.  Just don’t, under any circumstances, say you don’t care.  If you tell her you want to get together and she asks what you had in mind and your reply is “I don’t care”, what she hears is “Just spending time with you is an honor.  I don’t care what we do, as long as I get to be seen in public with you!”

Game over.  You lose value in her eyes, and winning her over on the first date becomes and even bigger uphill battle (assuming of course she still agrees to go out with you).

My advice: Pick a date where you can have interaction!

Avoid going to the movies, a play, or a concert.

Do something interesting and fun.  Just make sure you’ll be able to talk to her without having audience members shhh-ing you, or a mosh pit trampling your date.

Short, Sweet, and to the Point…

Now is not the time to tell her your life story.  Please don’t mention how you used to wear your mom’s shoes and have dance parties with your stuffed animals when nobody was home.  She is not your psychiatrist, so don’t treat her like one.  All women enjoy a bit of mystery.  Even if, by nature, you’re not a mysterious guy, revealing too much about yourself too early is just a recipe for disaster.  If a girl knows all there is to know about you, what does she have left to look forward to?  The answer to that, amigo, is nada.

Your first phone call shouldn’t be any longer than 5 minutes.  You want to be in and out like a bank robber.  The longer you linger on the phone, the more of a chance you have to say something embarrassing.  So put a cork in it.  Say hello, make small talk for a minute, set up the date, and get outta there.

Be flexible, but not too available

If you are trying to make plans to hang out on Thursday night and she can’t because she already has plans, don’t freak out.  It’s not the end of the world.  Generally, if a girl is really interested in seeing you, she’ll usually propose another date or tell you which nights she will be free.  She will do the hard work for you, and then the ball is in your court to decide which night you will be free to see her.  If she tells you she is free Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, you tell her you are busy Friday and Saturday, but that you have Sunday open.  Again, even if you have to fake it, fake it.  Don’t leave her with the impression that you have no friends and no life.

If on the other hand she simply tells you she is busy on Thursday and doesn’t offer up any other days or nights that she may be free, well then hit the eject button, Maverick.  Tell her it’s no problem, maybe some other time.  If she agrees, then tell her you’ll call her back.  Wait a couple days and then call her up again.  My policy is always give a girl 2 chances to go on a date with you.  If she makes no effort to see you after you call the second time, then let it go.  Find you a new fish.

Half the Battle is already won

Relax!  Once you get the girl to go out on a date with you, half the battle is already won.  You got through the hard part.  Now, you just have to show her what a kick ass guy you are and hopefully, if you’re lucky, you’ll find out that there’s more to this babe than her killer eyes.  And by eyes, I clearly mean body.

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