By
kruzman on Friday, October 16th, 2009 |
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Break-ups are becoming way too common and happen to everyone at some point in time. I have included some basic issues that men and women need to consider before entering another intimate relationship.
1. Thinking you can change who he is.
Many women get involved with men with undesirable habits, and cling to the relationship hoping that he’ll improve with time. They tend to feel like the man requires the woman’s help in order to change. The woman puts up with the bad and hurtful behavior in hopes that marriage may change who he is. The best test for a relationship comes when stress and crises come about in a relationship. You can see the core personality and essence of a partner during these times. Their actions and reactions will provide much insight as to how they will respond to children, finances, and emergencies. Gut feelings are well and good, but it’s better to trust your intuition instead.
2. Assuming good looks are enough.
Do not assume that men only care about an attractive physical appearance. Also, many women think that men aren’t very verbally communicative. Therefore many women resort to using provacative body language to gain a man’s attention which gives off the wrong impression. The combination of verbal, emotional, intellectual, and physical qualities are needed for total chemistry to occur.
3. Acting like someone that you are not.
Men will not find happiness in a relationship if the woman isn’t happy herself. A woman should never lose herself by trying to satisfy a man’s every need and desire. A man can’t have respect for a woman that isn’t confident of who she is. Do not wait on him hand and foot or constantly act in provacative ways to attempt to please him. If he or she demands something that you are not, the relationship will most likely not work.
4. Not seeing the signs.
Throughout my blog, I have written on the signs and personality types of hurtful people. Do not be fooled as the signs of abusive and demanding behavior will surface in many cases. How one takes responsibility and atones for hurt in relationships does reveal much about his or her character.
By
kruzman on Friday, October 2nd, 2009 |
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The National Center for Education Statistics presented in 1993 that more elementary school children (29%) worried about being victims at school than senior high school students (20%). The NCES also reported that 73% of students in assigned public schools and 71% in public schools of choice reported having knowledge that either bullying, physical attack, or robbery was occurring in the school compared to 45% of private school students in 1993. 12% of the students in assigned public school versus 7% in private schools stated they have personally experienced crime or threats in their school. 34% of middle or junior high students were being victimized in school as opposed to 20% of high school students. The statistics showed that 12% of middle or junior high students reported being bullied at school, which was twice the rate of high school students. Students entering high school have the lowest rates of bullying behavior (6%), and worry less about being bullied (20%) than elementary and middle school students. 8% of students in high school presented being personally victimized.
In a public school’s system of discipline, personnel carry out punitive measures when students do not follow rules and guideline. Detentions, suspensions, and expulsions are the main disciplinary measures in this system. There are occasions when a student needs to be protected from another student, especially in extremely volatile situations. In these cases, a student may need to be expelled from the school. Students are not taught coping and problem-solving skills in this type of system. The victim’s anger and frustration can accumulate due to his or her irrational views concerning the problem, which increases the threat of violent acts. The punitive measures do not provide a rational means to resolve conflict and hurt. Many bullies were bullied or are being abused by an adult and have learned to vent their frustrations by making verbal threats and/or by physically attacking others.
If children are not taught the skills of problem identification, negotiation, compromise, and problem resolution, they will not develop healthy ways to manage conflict and problems in life. Do we see parents and other adults physically assaulting one another when things do not go their way? How many parents threaten coaches or hit referees when the call does not go in favor of their kid’s team? Have you ever watched politicians debate?
If we want this trend of bullying to stop, parents, clergy, and mentors of children must teach healthy relationship skills or the divorce rate will reach 100%.
