More Than Looks
Sit for a minute or two and try and think about the things that interest you and things that you would find interesting in a person. How many times have you found yourself committing to a extremely physically beautiful person. This is not to say that a certain physical appeal is necessary to get the chemistry going.
By ‘things’ over here I am not referring to physical attributes. I am not referring to something that might interest you in a person’s physical appearance. Again the distinction has to be drawn between a serious relationship and a casual relationship. In a casual relationship, the importance is many times for the physical attributes of the other person. We are more concerned with what the person looks like and what the person has brings emotionally and intellectually to the party.
On the other hand, if we have a serious relationship, then the physical qualities are not as important. Compatibility is probably the most important factor over here. Along with that there are certain qualities that obviously we will be looking out for. We are talking about qualities of the mind. After all, beauty is only skin-deep!
This idea might sound strange, but it is actually true. The idea is that it is possible to grow to like the looks of a person. Once you find the character of the person agreeable you will become attracted. It is entirely possible to fall in love with a person if the person does not look like a movie star. A good person warms your heart and soul and changes the way you view his or her physical appearance.
There are many people who insist on taking a look at the other person’s picture before actually committing to a relationship. They might have their reasons of course, but I, for one, feel that such a decision based largely on looks is starting the relationship out on a superficial basis. It is bound to sizzle off after some time. After all, how long can you keep staring at a person without wanting to find what qualities and virtues he or she brings to the dance? And what happens if the person finds you less that optimal in appearance?
