Stop Hurting Others

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To enhance your relationships, you need to gain more insight into the human condition. Show your talents and abilities to others and have them do the same to you. Adults need to feel productive and leave behind few regrets. You may feel very dependent upon others, have no real sense of your morality, and feel very stagnant in your life. Your relationships up to this point may not have been grounded in love, respect, and honesty. Your irrational thoughts will be hard to change because your instincts will be to look at the negative aspects of your relationship when a conflict arises.

Evaluate how stress, negative thoughts, feelings, and behavior impact your behavior. You cannot use negative life situations to excuse the hurt that you cause another person. Your tendency to view stressful situations in irrational ways will be a constant struggle for you. You will need to understand what contributes to your stress and learn how your body signals stress. Once you develop the ability to recognize stress, you can put safeguards in place to work through the stressful event without acting in ways that hurt another person. The key will be to remember to communicate in ways that emulate love, respect, and honesty. When you fall short of the mark, your atoning behavior will help to repair the hurt that you cause in your irrational state.

What causes you to experience stress? What are the physical and emotional signs that show that you are experiencing stress? Many people have learned to adapt to higher levels of stress and do not understand the signals their bodies are sending. Laptops, cellular phones, and other technologically advanced equipment have led to less down time for people. They end up pushing themselves to their limits each day and develop more irrational approaches to counteract the physical and emotional results of stress. Caffeine, anti-anxiety drugs, antidepressants, illicit drugs, and other artificial performance-enhancing substances are in the hands of more people today than ever before. These substances provide users with a false sense of emotional security. Are you becoming numb to the chaos around you? In order for you to gain the ability to think rationally, you will need to be able to identify signals of stress from your body and your emotions and to react to these signals in rational, healthy ways.

Take Inventory

Initially, the best way to identify your signals of stress is to conduct a “body and emotion inventory” while you are under stressful conditions. Prior to this inventory, you will need to determine if you are under stress by how positive or negative your outlook is on any given day. When you find that you are having a difficult time discerning any positive characteristics in the events, people, or places with which you are involved, you can be assured that you are under stressful conditions. What changes have occurred to your physical body during this stressful event? Do certain parts of your body feel tense, sore, or warm? Do you suffer stomachaches or feel shaky at all? Everyone’s reaction to stress is unique. Find out what bodily signals relate to you, and then write them down. You may discover that these signals are occurring daily and correspond with your negative outlook on situations and your relationship.

Each day, each of us need to become more aware of our physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. When any of these are compromised, we can become hurtful to others. We are selfish by nature, which makes all of us responsible to take inventory on our state of being each day and keep working towards respecting and loving others, especially those we hold dear.