Get them excited on the First Date

When you have been talking to someone online for a time you both may decide to take the next step with a real life date. Online dating can be very beneficial but without a good connection in real life, you cannot move onto something more with long lasting potential. Many people are concerned about moving from online dating to dating in real life. It can be very dangerous. Online daters also need to worry about the other person not being honest about them. The best thing that you can do is to simply give it a shot. In the dating world, you will experience many failures but it is possible to have a good and true relationship if you try hard. The first date with an online friend can be nerve racking so you have to be sure to get the other person excited about meeting you.

First it is a good idea to plan a first date that will take place in a public place. It is easy to lie online and you do not want to find yourself to be a victim of an online predator. To be safe, you need to suggest meeting at the place of the date instead of getting into a vehicle with someone you do not know. Plan a date for the daytime and it is usually a good idea to have very little alcohol involved. If you are still not sure about meeting for security reasons, you should suggest a group date where each of you brings a few different friends.

There are a number of good date ideas that you can use for your first date. You should always have a meal at a good restaurant or go to the movies. However when you are eating or watching a film it is difficult to get to now another person. You can suggest a date based on common interests that attracted you to the other person in the first place. For example if you both enjoy sports, you can go to a baseball game or playing golf. If you like the outdoor adventures you can plan a first date at a rock-climbing place. For more quiet dates, you can meet at a coffee house or listen to a soft music concert.

The most important thing to remember about a date is to make sure that you both are comfortable. If you are both having a bad time and it is obvious, it is not inappropriate to suggest leaving early or come up with new places or activities that may turn things around. However if you both are having a great time, you may want to extend the date to another activity after the first date has ended. Leave the first date open because not every person will have a connection with you. You need to be prepared for both success and failure.

How to Date Promoters

A promoter’s worst idea of a date:

Um, hi, err…I have got our entire outing thoroughly planned out for tonight, ok? First, we will come over to my place where we will be watching documentaries on the developments of the decades, and then we will head over to the restaurant nearby to have a meal. The restaurant has planned out the entire program where the food will all be served according to the order listed down on the menu, and they will be featuring a live band that will play songs that are enjoyed by the majority of the people. After that, maybe we can head over to the library to do some reading. Don’t worry, there’s no pressure for us to rush anywhere or do anything over-exciting. In fact, we won’t bump into anyone at all cause nothing can go wrong on this date… um, so how’s that?

A promoter’s worst nightmare is predictability! They don’t like things to be predictable and boring without any element of excitement or visibility.

If you are an analyzer:

Cultivate your social skills and learn to show more emotion when you talk. Don’t show apathy when relating to others. Be a good listener: promoters LOVE to talk and talk and listen to you sound excited and concerned. It is easy to get to their hearts if you shower them with attention and openness. Don’t give too many details to the promoter. Your constant rambling about theories and ideas will make them turn off their minds if they find you boring or cannot relate to your analyzing style. If you close yourself up too much, the promoter will have little chances of relating to you and you will ruin your chance for a second date.

If you are a controller:

Never ever focus too much on the end result of the date. Learn to loosen up a bit and enjoy the process of dating because promoters love going through the process. If the promoter is talking and you butt in too much when trying to offer your own idea on the way things should be, you are stealing the limelight away from the promoter. Take your time to understand and relate instead of rushing. If you enjoy the freedom of making the decisions during your date, you can always set up the date with lots of surprises and excitement. Promoters respect strength so show them you as a person are up to the challenge, but don’t appear bossy or pushy.


If you are a supporter:

Supporters are a good match for promoters. They enjoy pleasing their friends and the promoters will dazzle them with their stories. However, there is a tendency to let the promoter walk all over you and if you give in too much, you will develop resentment and it will spoil YOUR idea of a good date. Promoters also like to move from one exciting place to another so don’t spoil their mood by lacking urgency and being too laid-back.

If you are another promoter:

It is fun when two promoters get together and have a raging time together. However, it might not turn out to be the case when one promoter tries to steal the limelight from another. It will become a competition of who tells the better stories or does the more outrageous thing and the date might turn out to become a disaster. Don’t be too quick to jump the gun. Pause, check if everything is ok, or count to 10 if necessary. Also don’t over-commit to your date if you are not ready to be serious. There is a tendency for promoters to promise or commit too much just to be in the limelight.

Warning Signal

If you are doing something wrong at a date, you will see the signs when a promoter reacts to it by talking too much. That is how they will initially react to pressure. If you do not adapt, they will start throwing a tantrum and you will fail miserably in your date.